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Really enjoyed your latest video regarding provisions. Made so much sense to me, and it’s always heartening to find that despite how adrift one might feel – there is always someone else experiencing the same life-dilemmas. Safety in numbers don’t you know!
I wanted to ask you a particular question that I would value your insight on if you don’t mind.
Here’s my question; Should I continue an essentially pragmatic relationship or, despite the destruction it might cause, try and be with a person I truly love? A fairly difficult (and none too specific) question I know, but let me explain if you are prepared to listen further…
I am a loving Step Father to two wonderful daughters who I consider my own and would do anything for. I have been in a stable relationship with their mother for about 9 years now but am struggling to see a future for us after the children have flown the nest in a few years.
I know we all have our problems, some of which we are more aware of than others, but I try and keep it all on an even keel. However, my partner has a family history of depression and alcoholism, which although manifesting itself only occasionally over the years I sense is getting worse. I spend a lot of time and energy ‘keeping a lid’ on things and it’s got to the stage where I wonder how much longer I can keep doing this.
The complication to the story (and there always is one isn’t there..?!) is this; I have had a very wonderful friend for the last 20 years who has recently told me that she would love to have a closer relationship with me, but has for a long time been reluctant because of my relationship with my current partner.
Now I have always loved this other person, but circumstances always kept us apart but I now have the ‘opportunity’ to mend this but am confused.
In my mind, I tell myself that on the one hand I have a long-term relationship within a great home that we have built up over the years, and on the other I have what I consider to be a ‘true love’ with someone I know even better than my partner.
Essentially Kurt, I think my current partner will eventually drain all life from me and my very wonderful friend has always allowed me to flourish creatively and as a human being.
Hope you are able to digest all this, and that I’ve written it in an understandable form. I always worry when I put too many things in inverted commas!
All the very best, and keep the videos coming despite the sabbatical (which I think judging by your prolific output you will find hard to maintain)!
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Welcome to the LylesBrother blog. My name is Kurt Bell and I am delighted that you have taken some time to share a little of life with me. I’m available on Facebook and Google+ if you have questions or just want to chat and say hi. I can also be found at the JVLOG forum with other Japan-related content creators. All links are listed below. I look forward to meeting you on-line. Have a great day!
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